As we grow up, we learn ways of interacting with others, forming close relationships, and knowing to some degree what we want out of life. Most of the ways that we learned to achieve these goals, as children were in relationships with parents, relatives, friends and teachers. But they no longer always work for us as adults. Often, we do not know what to do as we cannot find new and more efficient ways of acting and relating in our everyday life.
Psychotherapy helps to find better ways, and in the process, we begin to understand how we have become the way we are, and how to change our style.
That is why therapy, practically always, involves finding out our own particular style of relating and attaching to others in intimate relationships; what works for us and what does not. We never stop learning better interpersonal skills so that we can interact with others more effectively.
Learning to regulate our emotions and impulses is the fundamental skill that supports an effective and constructive way of living. It is about how we relate to ourselves. Learning to reflect on what we feel helps us to become who we want to become. Then, we begin to understand how much of our conscious experience is determined unconsciously. The unconscious is where all the skills we use are stored.
The most important relationship then is with oneself. Developing this relationship means that the solutions to the psychological difficulties and problems that life throw up, can be found in oneself. Recent research has demonstrated the value of the adaptive unconscious. It consists of all the knowledge we have acquired in life. Developing a relationship with our unconscious then allows us to tap into its ability to solve our personal problems.
The difficulties we encounter in meeting our needs especially in our relationships make up a large percentage of problems dealt with in counselling and psychotherapy.
A commitment to work on these problems is an effective way to personal growth. It is the most positive outcome of committing to work on oneself. It is essentially spiritual as it involves looking beyond ordinary needs and values for those that lead to personal maturity and wisdom.
I believe that no matter what a person has been, or been through, they have the capacity to change. How and what to change is where we begin. It is a collaborative process. Clinical knowledge is a great help in knowing where to start. When a person has a psychological problem, it begins with feeling that he or she cannot get what they want, or really be who they want to be, or to achieve what they want to achieve or manage a problem.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
Emotional Regulation Strategies
Insight or Attachment-based therapies
Each session is approximately 50 minutes in duration
Mainly I work with adults in relation to their personal lives, their work environment and in their relationships; specifically in the following areas:
anxiety and its disorders,
attachment related difficulties,
the application of neurobiological findings
I graduated from Edinburgh University in Scotland with a first class honours degree in psychology.
Following that I attended Louvain University in Belgium to do a doctorate. I then spent two years doing postdoctoral research at Bryn Mawr College, in Pennsylvania US doing research into conditioning mechanisms. From there I moved to teaching at Aberdeen University.
On coming to Australia, I spent many years at Monash University teaching clinical psychological assessment and experiential counselling techniques. I has also been in private practice for the last twenty five or so years. I value a continual learning approach to the latest developments in clinical psychology, psychotherapy and neuroscience.
Rebates: When you have an appointment with one of our psychologists you may be eligible for a Medicare rebate of approximately $80 (if you see a Registered Psychologist) and approximately $120 (if you see a Clinical Psychologist), per session. We do not bulk bill. There is an out of pocket fee which varies depending on the clinician you see.
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